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Jane Bennett Bridgers-Carlos

Jane Bennett Bridgers-Carlos, 54, entered the gates of larger life on Wednesday, December 2, 2020. She was born at Ellsworth Air Force Base, South Dakota, on April 5, 1966, to Sue Ellen and Ben Bridgers and spent her early childhood in Chapel Hill, N.C., before moving to Sylva in 1971. She grew up in St. John's Episcopal Church.

She attended Fairview School and graduated from St. Andrew's-Sewanee School in Sewanee, TN. She received a BA degree from Hampshire College, Amherst, MA., an MFA from the Writers' Workshop at the University of Iowa and a Master of Social Work from Tulane University, New Orleans, LA. She worked as a therapist for several organizations in New Orleans, including Elderly Protective Services and Volunteers of America. She also worked as a consular associate for the United States Department of State in Lilongwe, Malawi, and in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Returning to North Carolina, she was a therapist at Analenisgi Clinic in Cherokee. She was a poet, a musician, and a visual artist. Wherever she lived, she was present, kind and beloved by all who knew her. At the time of her death, she had a private psychotherapy practice in Sewanee, TN.

Bennett is survived by her mother, her son Sean Adam Bridgers-Carlos, her birth daughter Vanessa Ellen Moss, and two beloved daughters by marriage, Sophia Bridgers-Carlos and Ava Bridgers-Carlos, as well as her sister Elizabeth Bridgers and partner, John; her brother Sean Bridgers and wife, Rachel, along with three nieces and two nephews. She was preceded in death by her son, Quentin Moss and her father, Ben Bridgers.

Memorial gifts would be gratefully accepted by Center for Domestic Peace, 26 Ridgeway St. Sylva, NC, 28779 or Spring Lake Ranch Therapeutic Community, 1169 Spring Lake Rd., Cuttinsville, VT. 05738, or a charity of your choice. Appalachian Funeral Services has been in charge of arrangements. There will be no local service. Burial will be in Pitt County, N.C. at a later date.

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My heart is broken to learn about the loss of my dear friend. The world is a much less interesting place without her in it, without her unique perspective and gift for seeing what is real and beautiful in all things. She experienced the world deeply through all of her senses and could describe her vision perfectly in words, spoken and written. When we were teenagers we often stayed up until the early morning hours, talking about everything. I know that she was a talented therapist, because I still reflect on the insight and advice she gave me when I was so young and figuring out life. In those days, we shared many a cheese pizza at Pizza Hut, playing Simon and Garfunkel on the juke box, talking and talking and talking about the poetry of life. We decided to wear camo and fatigues, to be somewhat rude to figures of authority, to write silly songs, mocking the things we detested: war, misogyny, bigotry, hypocrisy and classism. We laughed at ourselves and good-naturedly parodied others & had so much fun! I regret that we lost touch as we got older. As a middle-aged woman, I sometimes think that things just dont matter. But Bennett made me know to always look for what matters, to focus on what matters, to let what matters guide you. This is the gift that she gave me for which I am so grateful. I love and miss her so.

Stacey Zachary Messer Dec 22 2020 12:00 AM

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